Cannot help these bad thoughts playing on my mind [ADVICE]

[~ Mylitta ~]

Huge supportive hugs for you sweetness. I wish I could say the feeling goes away, but even at 30 weeks I still worry every day even though my little Apple Blossom never seems to stop moving. Of course then I wonder if something is wrong and that's why she's moving so much. You just can't win when you stress about every little thing.

My Obstetrician does a quick scan at every apt so I've had monthly scans plus my 12week and 19week scans, and leading up to each scan I get more and more excited, then when it's just days away I start to get more and more scared. I had a 4D scan on Sat and yet I am still scared about my Ob apt tomorrow! Completely irrational, but us mummies are allowed to be a little irrational from time to time

Personally I am a huge fan of the fetal dopplers. I used one with DS's pregnancy and also with this one. I managed to find DS's heartbeat at 11ish weeks, and I found our little Apple Blossom's at 9 weeks! I will admit that it's a bit scary when bub's are so little and it takes ages to find the heartbeat. I was close to going to the hospital one night when I couldn't find her heartbeat while sitting up. I then lay down and found it within seconds. But when ever I heard that little thump-thump of the heart beating strongly I felt a huge weight lift off my shoulders

I wish you all the best in the rest of your journey. Also, even when you stress about things, make sure you enjoy that little precious bundle growing inside you

[MummyNaomi]

Personally I am a huge fan of the fetal dopplers.

Me too, we found DS's heartbeat from about 12 weeks, I could always find it by being almost fully laying down (I do remember being surprised how low I had to place it though LOL
I still have my doppler, although a friend currently has it (but isn't using it now as she's had her bub) - I am happy to chase it up and loan it to you babe if you would like to use it I totally understand your fears - although we never m/c - DS was an IVF miracle so the pregnancy always seemed to good to be true, once I started to feel DS kick though (about 19 weeks from memory) I stopped using the doppler and my worries massively decreased

Naomi

[thepixie]

PZ, I am another one who has never had a mc but keeps having the exact same thoughts this time. Can't help thinking like you, that when I get to the 12 week scan there will be nothing there. Having had losses before of course you will be worried, it's only natural. I have a friend who had 4 early mc's before her current pregnancy which is well into the second tri now. She kept saying she was 'crazy' because she was so worried about losing this baby. But it's not crazy it's perfectly normal - if something has happened before the mind can't help thinking it might happen again. Unfortunately some anxiety will go with the territory. All you can do is seek reassurance where you can (tashy's suggestion sounds excellent) and enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can.

[~ Mylitta ~]

I could always find it by being almost fully laying down (I do remember being surprised how low I had to place it though LOL

Oh yes, I forgot to mention that. At first you practically have to be trying to position it just above your pubic bone (near where your underwear sits) then push the doppler in and point it down to get it "behind" your pelvic bone, lol.